What’s wrong with being a girl?

One of the things I deal with on an almost daily basis at work is those people who HATE the term GIRL. I don’t mean they dislike it, I mean they vehemently hate the word. They don’t like being called a “girl” or doing things that call them a “girl” or anything in that realm of “Girl”. I read Facebook comments, twitter comments, survey comments all about how we should be in an UPROAR about the word “Girl”.

Last Monday I sat down to watch the new CBS show Supergirl. I did this for 2 reasons. First, I love Jeremy Jordan. We saw him when he was in Newsies and I’ve been following his career since. I standby he is still the best Jack Kelly! I digress cause I could do an entire post just on him! Second, I loved the idea of a female superhero getting primetime placement. I wanted to make sure she had a great showing that first night cause I want the networks to know that female based shows have a place in prime time (also cause it wasn’t ANOTHER stupid cop show or murder show). Thankfully, it is a great show and I now have a new Monday night must watch.



Much to my immense pleasure there was a scene all about being called a “Girl”. I actually jumped up and cheered Calista Flockhart’s character. I started pointing at the screen yelling “YES! THANK YOU!!” my husband thought I was nuts until I explained it. Also, The Washington Post did a great article on this topic “Is the term SuperGirl offensive?” (check out this great article by Emily Yahr)

The dialogue on the show went like this:

Kara (a.k.a Supergirl): We can’t name her that!

Cat: WE didn’t.

Kara: Right. I’m sorry, It’s just – I don’t want to minimize the importance of this. A female superhero! Shouldn’t she be called Superwoman? … If we call her Supergirl, something less than what she is, doesn’t that make us guilty of being anti-feminist? Didn’t you say she’s a hero?”

Cat: “I’m the hero! I stuck a label on the side of this girl. I branded her. … And what do you think is so bad about ‘girl’? I’m a girl. And your boss. And powerful and rich and hot and smart. So if you perceive Supergirl as anything less than excellent — isn’t the problem you?”

BOOM (drops mic)!! Thank you Supergirl writers for tackling this right at the beginning! What makes her any less for being called a girl? Who woke up one day and decided the word woman was a better word? Is Lady ok? It isn’t like it is called Super Sweetie or Iron Honey. It is SUPERGIRL and IRON GIRL (see what i’m getting at).

Why on earth would anyone allow themselves to be defined by one word? Why does being a girl make us any “less” because of a word. IT DOESN’T! I don’t care what any haters have to say I am proud to be a strong and independent GIRL and you should be also! We give away the power to these words when we allow them to take on some arbitrary meaning.

So, here’s to the Supergirls and the Iron Girls out there rocking everything they have and everything they can be! Stop worrying about a word and just being the amazing person that you are!

Published by Kim Teter

I am a 35 year old living in Maryland. I'm trying to find a balance between a healthy lifestyle and actually having a life.

18 thoughts on “What’s wrong with being a girl?

  1. Thank YOU! Imagine all the girls out there now who also don’t feel like being called a ‘girl’ now because even a woman doesn’t want that name? I once was chastised over using the term ‘Ladies’. Huh?! People are becoming so sensitive and easily offended, it wouldn’t surprise me if the word ‘Human’ became offensive. Just put your big IRONgirl pants on and show those WONDERboys what you’ve got. We are all on the same team. Your actions speak volumes about you… not whether you are a girl, lady, woman, female or human!

  2. I love this! We get so wrapped up in terminology sometimes rather than the true meaning of what someone is trying to communicate. Girl or woman or superwoman or supergirl – ALL the same if you ask me! 🙂

  3. While I take issue with your disdain of cop shows and murder shows, I love this post. The whole girl/woman thing drives me crazy. I’m never bothered when someone refers to me as a girl. It’s all about how the term is said. If you’re saying it TRYING to be condescending, yes, that bothers me. But I’m not bothered by the word, just the condescension.

    1. I enjoy the good cop or murder show I just feel like that’s all that is on now. What ever happened to a good solid sitcom?

  4. So yesterday afternoon I saw the preview and remembered I wanted to watch this show, so I watched the first episode quickly before the 2nd aired. I do love this show:) I had a feeling I would! It’s rare to find quality TV these days, so when I find a good one I just love it!
    I agree I liked the way they tackled the “girl” subject. I hate how society puts every little thing down these days.
    It’s all about respect, if we say things with respect then it comes across that way, if we say things demeaning, then it will come across that way. I don’t think words should or shouldn’t be used, I just think people just need to remember to respect and be kind and then who cares what words they use to describe things:)

  5. I agree, that’s a really interesting point. Someone else mentioned the condescension thing… and I think that is sometimes where I get sensitive myself. I look young, am young and sometimes get treated like it in the profession that I am in so I am oversensitive about that. That being said, there is nothing wrong with being a girl! I wouldn’t want to be anything else 🙂

  6. Yeah…fully disagree….
    It would be one thing if KARA choose the name. But she didn’t. She rightly insists on being a woman and is basically told that her feelings are ridiculous, and in turn, every woman in the world is called ridiculous for the desire not to be addressed in a way which implies that they are still children. Kara isn’t a teen like in the comics. She is a grown woman and she has a right not to get infantilized. And that the show made her a strawwoman – or I guess strawgirl – in order to ridicule the understandable desire of woman to be addressed in a manner which fits their age and experience is one of the many issues I had with the Supergirl pilot.

    See, if YOU are okay with being called a girl, all power to you. But a woman has the same right to feel insulted by the term as every single grown man has when he is called a boy. And no BS speech about girl power can change this.

    1. You are fully entitled to your thoughts and opinions on this topic. I just don’t find any insult in the word. I also don’t know that the opposing word is boy. I typically use guy or girl, man or woman, male or female. I mean boys and girls work but it doesn’t have to be so black and white.

      1. It’s guy and gal. And it is okay if you don’t find it insulting, but those who do, do have a point, and their opinion should be respected, not ridiculed in a TV show which claims to be a feminist achievement, but so far only paid lip service to the concept. But that’s a longer discussion.

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